He told me not to read his book

November 14, 2023 in Mental Health, Mindset

Recently, I began my hypnotherapy diploma by attending a two day workshop with my tutor in Bournemouth. 

He was framing what to expect from the course, and advised us that we should be prepared to unlearn some of the things we thought we knew about hypnotherapy and psychology in general. 

My tutor, Adam Eason, teaches an evidence-based approach to hypnotherapy, and he told us that over the course of his career, he’s changed his viewpoint in the light of research that has disproved his previous training.

He has written three books, and he told us not to buy his first book because it talks about ideas he was taught many years ago that have no evidence to support them.

I love that!

Many people stay stuck and entrenched in their thoughts, and refuse to be open minded. 

It’s important to be willing to consider new ideas and perspectives, even if they challenge your existing beliefs. 

Having an open mind helps us to learn and grow. When we're open to new ideas, we're more likely to discover new things and expand our knowledge. We're also more likely to challenge ourselves and our own thinking, which can lead to deeper understanding and personal growth.

Having an open mind is also important for building relationships (if you’ve done the Judgement Index with you, you’ll know that being open-minded is an important indicator of having well-developed people skills). 

When we're open to new perspectives, we're better able to understand and appreciate people who are different from us. We're also more likely to find common ground and build bridges with people who have different beliefs.

Of course, having an open mind doesn't mean that we have to accept everything we hear but simply think about it critically. 

I’ve had to do a big unlearning about the metaphor of how your mind is like an iceberg, with your conscious mind being just the small tip at the top of a vast subconscious. 

It’s a model I’ve accepted as true for many years, but Adam told me there is no evidence that the mind is divided in this way. 

Our memories don’t exist as “things” in our brain, any more that a handshake exists after you’ve stopped shaking hands with someone.  

  • Be willing to listen to others, even if you disagree with them.

  • Be critical of your own thinking. Ask yourself why you believe the things you believe.

  • Be open to new information and experiences.

  • Be willing to change your mind if the evidence warrants it.

Having an open mind and being prepared to unlearn things is not about being weak or indecisive. It's about being strong enough to admit when you're wrong and to change your mind when presented with new evidence.

It's also important to remember that you don't have to unlearn everything. There are some things that you know to be true, and there's no need to question those beliefs.

 But it's important to be open to the possibility that you might be wrong about some things, and to be willing to change your mind if necessary.

So, go out there and keep an open mind! Be willing to learn and grow, and don't be afraid to unlearn things if you have to. 

If you’re a client of mine, it’s likely I’ll be asking you to unlearn some of the things I’ve discussed in coaching sessions with you as I learn more, so you’d better get ready for change!

The author 

Vicki LaBouchardiere