Who’s your partner in crime

January 5, 2024 in Goal Setting, Health & Fitness, Mindset

  I recently had the privilege of attending a client’s wedding, and I had a lovely time watching them celebrate their big day, surrounded by friends and family who love them.

  There was none of the awkwardness you sometimes get at weddings - you know where people sit at tables staring at their drinks, uncomfortably adjusting tight collars and waistbands, wishing they were at home in front of Strictly so they didn’t have to make conversation with so-and-so’s pervy uncle. 

  Everyone was having fun at this wedding, a testament I think to the great attitude the couple and their family have towards life in general. 

  When I’m coaching clients, we usually talk at some level about their personal relationships, and I’m always keen to know if they’re being supported in their personal development journey or not. 

  It was lovely to meet my client’s spouse for the first time at the wedding, and know how well they’re supported by them, because life is a rollercoaster ride, filled with ups, downs, twists, and turns, and you really need to be with someone who feels like they’re your partner in crime. 

  You don’t just want someone who loves you on a good day, but someone who truly understands your struggles and embraces your need to keep growing as a person. 

  How do you know if your partner is cut out to be your partner in crime? 

  • Are they willing to embrace the unexpected? A true partner in crime is always up for trying new things, even if they involve a risk of failure or embarrassment!

  • Can they laugh at themselves? Life’s too short to take things too seriously. A partner who can appreciate a good joke, even at their own expense, is a keeper.

  • Do they have enthusiasm for shared experiences? Whether it's mastering a new dance move or conquering a fear of heights, a partner who’ll occasionally step out of their comfort zone and try something new with you just for the hell of it shows they have a growth mindset and aren’t stuck in a rut. 

  • Are they flexible? Plans change, and that's okay. If you can both adapt to unexpected detours, then the stress levels in your life will be minimised. 

  • Do you feel like a tiny team when you’re together? As a tight team, you’ll offer support and encouragement when needed, and celebrate each other’s victories together. 

  Remember, life is meant to be lived to the fullest, and having a partner who's up for the ride makes every day more exciting, more hilarious, and more meaningful. 

  Embrace the struggles together, too, because they make for some of the best stories! 

  In our 90 Day Breakthrough, we encourage you to set goals around your relationship with your significant other, and we make a point of saying if you aren’t in a “couple” with someone, then you can make goals around someone else who’s important to you. 

  If you aren’t in a relationship right now, you can still have a partner in crime.  As Groucho Marx said, “When you're in jail, a good friend will be trying to bail you out. A best friend will be in the cell next to you saying, 'Damn, that was fun!’”. 

  Who’s your partner in crime? 

The author 

Vicki LaBouchardiere